Wow…it’s been a lifetime since I’ve written a real post. I’m in the thick of being a mom of a teenager (had to reword that as teenager mom now means something totally different. Trying to find the humor.
My daughter asked me to make sure she was awake by 7am. I said I will do my best, but I am not a fan of being yelled at by a teen in the morning. She asked me to “take one for the team” implying that if she did yell at me to just suck it up and make sure she was moving. I guess she was letting me know it wasn’t personal if she yelled at me. The next day I did and I asked, ” Is this what taking one for the team looks like?” But now it’s actually a fun phrase we use to make sure she is awake.
I’m realizing the person I was when they were little may not have been able to give them what they needed then and now I can’t expect them to behave as if they did. I am also realizing I have to pivot because even if what I wasn’t able to be or do, what they need now is totally different and they are who they are.
Sometimes I wonder nature vs. nurture. Does it even matter what I do or don’t do? Will they be who they are meant to be anyway? I’m not saying disappear, but that every choice and decision isn’t the end of the world. It’s not always do or die. Every decision isn’t a learning moment, a judgement, a fight or flight, sometimes it just is…And every insult, eye roll and lash of the tongue isn’t personal.